Njeri's Mind Out Wild

Hello there... So, last time I talked to you, I shared I was too lazy to fall in love or meet people. Well, I have some updates... Allow me to digress for a bit... I promise you the updates has not been forced upon me, but I feel I need to share context of why relationships can impact how you take criticism differently based on whether they come from a place of love, curiosity, or ridicule! I have a very lovely relationship between my Mum, sister, and I. Booooy! When I tell you they bring the need to change my relationship status, they come swinging, it's always all love and reassurance, so I'd never take it as pressure. I can't even begin to tell you how hard my bestie has been trying to set me up on dates. We'll see! 😅 That being said, the last year has been an experiential kind. I've been stepping out of my comfort zone and into the dating pool. I even tried online dating and met a couple of interesting guys... Interesting is the key word here.  I have attempted...

I write this with my laptop seated on my lap at 10% I am too lazy to reach out to the charger Photo: Courtesy The charger that is just a reach away I must admit I am too lazy I am too lazy to reach out Too lazy to reach out to my feelings I am too lazy to search within my heart I am too lazy to get out of my head I am too lazy to fall in love!   I am too lazy to work so hard for the unlikely Too lazy to invest in heartbreaks and divorce Too lazy to believe in a happy ending Too lazy to see past the 21st century trend Too lazy to see that mine may be different Too lazy to love the wrong one Too lazy to lend my heart to a crash landing Too lazy to be vulnerable Too lazy to lift the hammer and break my walls Too lazy to fall in love!   I am too lazy to try Too lazy to meet new guys Too lazy to dress up for dates Too lazy to reimagine long-term Too lazy to see love differently Too lazy to sort genuine from fake Too lazy to try to...

When you have been single for too long, you become very comfortable and okay with your space; doing things by yourself and whenever you want to. You can make very random decisions such as traveling out of the country or changing jobs. You become very choosy with whom you let in and protective over those you love because you know what it is like when pain takes charge. If you still don’t get it, let me paint a picture for you through Suzan’s love life. Suzan has been single for many years now and has almost forgotten what love feels like. Her past relationships left her scarred for life and scared her of dating. She now loves from a safe distance and once in a while flirts with the good looking guys who seem interested just to keep the fire burning. The real reason, however, is she would rather love from a distance than be vulnerable again on her way to a broken heart. She puts up a strong show and portrays a very strong personality outside which most times scares the bad boys awa...

Can we just skip to the part where we are married with a beautiful set of triplets, an amazing home with a huge balcony that overlooks the swimming pool, a dog and an exciting love story of how we met? If you are a lady, past the age of 25, single and whose friends cannot wait to be your bridesmaids and are on your neck to go out   and ‘meet some guys’, you probably relate to this topic. We all agree that love is a beautiful thing… especially with the right person. I know, I should have just left it at ‘thing’. I do not doubt that. But, it is the process before marriage that just wares me out. I give up just before the Quarter Finals.   At the ‘getting to know someone’ stage of love. My God! You know, right before you even get to know their second name, hobbies and birth date and year- just imagine you now have to find out what they are allergic to and how many babies they may be having out there. Like they could be serial killers, but you can’t just dive into...

About time, right? It has been over two months since my last post or so. I have been trying to figure out a better way to fold my mind around this topic, now that I am on the other side of things. Ha ha! In my previous post that addressed the taken friend of the single Nairobi woman, i received lots of feedback on my mail and most of it talked about how the single woman in that post sounded so selfish and 'unfeeling' of the taken Nairobi woman, she should at least be happy fr her friend and supportive. My thoughts: AMEN TO THAT! Dear Single lady, I know how well you are doing, you chose to do it all by yourself. You chose independence, you chose to do you first before you could find love, you chose to do the right things for 'YOU' before you can settle for the 'WE'. Heeeey honey, the is nothing absolutely wrong with that, just one thing do you rub it in on your taken friend so much that it makes them uncomfortable. She is your friend...

, Hello, It has been a while since we last spoke. I here that nowadays you have a man who cherishes you a lot. I am so happy for you and your new journey in love. I hope all goes well for you with him and may the best come your way. May he be the Mr. Right, I am sure your mama is now eager to see you walk down the aisle; your friends should be looking forward to the day and I am sure they have been suggesting all that. Really happy for you. I would like to SELFISHLY turn your attention to that single friend you only need once in a while when you need someone else other than your man or family to talk to. By the way, she has always been and will always be there to listen to you letting your heart out. Remember that is how things were before you were taken after your heart had been turned into a mess by that young man you had so much hope for of a lifetime together? Have you ever taken time to think of how she is fairing besides you needing something that she might be of ...

My sentiments on #IEBC. Let’s be real, shall we? NO Policeman or woman is supposed to attack an unarmed citizen to the point they bleed, left disable or dead, the police are supposed to protect us from harm, not injure us. BUT, You cannot attack an armed policeman with stones and expect to walk free. You cannot be walking freely around an area of protest and expect to walk away unharmed. Once the stones begin to fly, you will only be a victim. Hooligans a re out to take advantage of protests to steal and let out their frustrations. They only bring so much pain to those who were out for peaceful protests. But, how are the police supposed to differentiate between the two? It has been weeks of pushing these policemen who are not even paid well enough to be running after you or reacting to the stones being hailed at them. So, if a fire is sparked, they will blow. Who benefits anyway from all these but both sides of the political parties? Neither you, nor the police. For Mwan...