FOR LOVE, FOR FRIENDSHIP?

A question often posed when a relationship seems to move to the next stage or is rather confusing and the two parties are not sure where they are as far as relationship is concerned. Most of the time, one of the parties is more attached to the other than the partner. This is what actually sets confusion in and this question has to be answered in one way or another.

It is hard for a lady to tell which position she holds in the heart of her presumed man, until the supposed man proposes to her. By proposing, the lady is assured of spending the rest of her life with the man she loves. Before any man is ready to settle and be committed to one woman for all his life, there are things to deal with and make final decisions before embarking on such a life full of promises and commitments which come with love.

These are things which put any relationship at bay, because such are the times a lot of advices are given and taken and these could either ruin or make a relationship. That is why it is advisable that a couple take longer courtship period so as to know more about each other and this includes knowing weaknesses, strengths and what your partner loves or hates to do among others so as to avoid a lot of misunderstanding that will kill a relationship.

Friendship is the best foundation for any relationship to relish and mature into a commendable one. This comes first before anything else happens. People have to establish the basis in which they can talk about things freely without fearing that your partner may not listen to them or how they may even react. When you are good friends it is so natural that you know what to expect from the other. As friends you will always tell how your pal feels like by a simple look at their faces.

It is always believed that if you are not ready to go through hardship and disappointments as stepping stones to a “happy there after” it is no point to fall in love in the first place. Love is a process which like a child grows from a step to the next and needs to be nurtured as it grows. For any growth to take place the two have to take parts on stage to make the relationship work out so well.

All I am saying is, relationships are based on the state of friendship before they then proceed to commitment, promises and founded love. It is important to know that relationships are a two-way traffic; this means that the two parties have to get involved in building their relationships. Relationships that happen almost immediately and one that has no basis always end up in regrets and like Ciara and Enrique you will end up like “am taking back my love”. Too many wishes will never help but put you in a state of mystery. Guard your love, shield your love and love your lover.