THE TIME NEEDED TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE MARRIAGE- FOR EVERY AGE GROUP

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Don't you think some of us just get married way too early? We all know marriage is a lifetime deal for most people who do not believe in divorce.

No wonder the very high divorce rates currently, because we rush a little too fast.

Why would you get married just to plan on divorce late? Unless, unfortunately, things are really bad.
We all need some time to get to know someone before we can commit ourselves into a relationship, more so before we can hook ourselves to a lifetime commitment with someone.

The time one needs to at least say yes to a proposal, marriage or even a relationship of any sort differs with age. Teenagers need a lot of time to eve figure themselves out before they can figure their partner, it is for that reason that marriage to anyone below the age of 18 is illegal and 99% bound to fail, if you ask me.

It all depends on an individual who decides to get married in their early 20s, but it is very hard to know for sure if it is the need to love, peer pressure or just the need to get recognized by someone. Some relationships that seem to do so well in 20s, hardly get to see 30s.  Anyoyne above the age of 40 has experienced success, heartbreaks and breakthroughs. They know exactly who they want, how they expect them to be, if they are ready and when to go for them. 

Therefore, depending with how old you are you may need more or little time to get to open up to someone for an intimate relationship or marriage.

AGE (Years)
APPROPRIATE PERIOD
19-20
At least 7 years
21-24
At least 4 years
25-26  (Mid-rush)
At least 3 years
27-30
At least 2 years
30s
At least a year
40s
At least 6 months
























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